reasons not to blog

December 16, 2014

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It’s been a month since you last wrote, and two months since you wrote a real post that was more than a link to writing you’ve done elsewhere. How to catch up? Do you need to catch up? What are the blogging rules?

It’s December, which makes you feel that you should comment on the season, and post pretty pictures of wreaths and trees. But you barely finished making the wreath last night, and you’ve been too busy to take photos of the tree when the light is right.

You haven’t been taking photos at all lately. Blog posts need photos.

You decided to manage a Destination Imagination team for your kid, like you did for your oldest exactly ten years ago. Because you remembered how it was such a good vehicle for creativity, and teamwork, and outside-the-box thinking, but you clearly forgot how damn much time was involved.

You resolved that in the months leading up to your 50th birthday that you would drop the extra pounds that have somehow adhered to you over the past ten years. So you try a specific diet, which you have never done in your life, which is difficult as a vegetarian, which requires eating beans by the bucketload, and which you are sticking with because it seems to be working. But you find yourself thinking about how your jeans are fitting, and how you will manage holiday parties with all their forbidden foods and cocktails, and what new thing you can do with beans instead of what you might blog about.

Your friends are also turning fifty this year. Which means that thrown into the night-after-night holiday celebrations are two 50th birthday parties. In one week.

Your daughter came home from college for almost a week at Thanksgiving, and it was wonderful and would have been such a good thing to write about, after posts like this one. But you enjoyed her instead of writing about it, and now enough weeks have passed that she’ll be back again in a few days. So you missed that blog post train.

You started to knit a hat for that girl, but you tried a tubular cast-on which you always mess up after you cast on all those darn stitches, and the two times you got it right your gauge was still loose, so you are starting again for the—seriously—seventh time.

You ordered Christmas cards early for once but they’re still sitting in a box waiting to be addressed, which pretty much cancels out your on-top-of-things-ness.

The satusma tree is fruiting a month early, so you add marmalade-making to the all the other seasonal craziness.

It’s more fun to search online for the perfect pair of boots that you’d like for Christmas–to go with all the other almost perfect pairs–than to write blog posts.

reasons to blog:

You miss your merry little band of readers, and you want to wish them a few weeks of glittery lights and laughter around tables.

Enjoy the season, sweet readers.


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